On March 30, 2025, Hilaria Baldwin opened up about her emotional struggles during the early years of her marriage to Alec Baldwin in an episode of The Baldwins on TLC. This personal segment delved into their home life, where Hilaria reflected on her journey since moving in with her husband, Alec, who is 66 years old.
As the couple engaged in discussions about daily household matters, Hilaria shared a poignant revelation about her past. She expressed,
“I used to do things very much the way Alec wanted them. I lived with tremendous anxiety and tremendous stress. I almost felt like I was a kid in an adult’s home. I don’t want to say parent because that sounds weird. But someone’s home and I didn’t feel like it was my home.”
Hilaria, who wed Alec in 2012, is the mother of seven children: Carmen Gabriela (11), Rafael Thomas (9), Leonardo Ángel Charles (8), Romeo Alejandro David (6), Eduardo Pao Lucas (4), María Lucía Victoria (4), and Ilaria Catalina Irena (2).
Feeling Like an Outsider
This episode added to a series of candid insights from Hilaria about the dynamics of her relationship. Just a week earlier, on March 23, 2025, viewers got a glimpse into Hilaria’s feelings during their early dating phase.
During their initial dinner dates, she recalled experiencing insecurity, primarily due to her upbringing where splitting checks was common. Notably, their significant age gap became a topic of conversation, as Alec, who is 26 years older, directly asked her in text messages about her feelings regarding their relationship.
Hilaria also highlighted Alec’s thoughtful courtship, which included asking for permission before their first kiss. Over time, her perspective on age-gap relationships evolved. On her podcast, Witches Anonymous, she shared how her views changed since joining Alec’s world.
In her podcast, she disclosed how she previously held biased views toward couples with significant age differences. Hilaria explained,
“Before I got together with Alec, I would judge women and men that had big age differences. I would look at it like, ‘This older man wants some, like, young bimbo with no opinions whatsoever.’ And then that younger woman is obviously a gold digger, and she obviously doesn’t even care and is just like, ‘OK, whatever, I hope you die and I’m gonna take all your money.'”
As she navigated her relationship, she began to recognize the flaws in her previous judgments, stating,
“Now that I’m in that relationship, and people will say those things about me regularly, I realize, I’m like, ‘Oh, my God, what was this trained into my head?’ And why was I so judgmental about other people who are literally just finding love? Maybe their love looks different from you and from your love or from what I thought love would be, but it doesn’t make it not valid.”
This transformation of her views marks a significant evolution in her understanding of authentic relationships.
A Brief Look at Their Relationship Timeline
Alec and Hilaria’s journey began in 2011 when they met at a vegan restaurant. Hilaria reminisced about their first encounter when Alec exclaimed, “Who are you? I must know you.”Their early correspondence candidly addressed their age gap, with Alec directly questioning her thoughts on dating someone older.
After addressing their differences, the couple tied the knot in 2012 and welcomed their first child, Carmen, in 2013. Over the next decade, their family continued to grow with the births of six more children: Rafael in 2015, Leonardo in 2016, and Romeo in 2018, followed by Eduardo and María Lucía through surrogacy in 2021, and baby Ilaria in 2022. Alec also has a 29-year-old daughter, Ireland, from his previous marriage to Kim Basinger. With the pandemic behind them, the couple recently revealed plans to spend more time with their children in Mallorca.
Catch more revelations from this unique family on The Baldwins, airing on TLC.